Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Alone time: expectation vs. reality

As I was searching through my phone for a picture to use for this post I was looking for something calming, peaceful, beautiful. Instead I found this and its actually the perfect picture. These days taking time for myself usually looks like catching up on the dishes after dinner while Jeff puts the boys to bed. People are constantly telling me to take time for myself and I really love the concept but the reality of what it looks like is much different from my expectations and not really all that satisfying. I'm really not even sure what I did with my free time before Lewis was born but here are some things that I like to do now: 

Taking a bath
expectation: peaceful, quiet, no interruptions. Completely relaxing for mind and body
reality: spend 30 minutes making sure the boys have everything they need for their rest time and that Annibel is asleep. Things are looking good. I get into the bath, everything is going according to plan. As soon as I settle in both cats and both boys run in (Lewis has to poop, yay). Boys are asking questions non stop and BOTH cats are walking around the edge of the tub. Boys leave, cat falls into the tub (gross), aaannd my bath is over lol. 

Writing this blog post
expectation: My computer gets 30 minutes of my undivided attention
reality: after I type the first letter I hear multiple, extremely loud bangs coming from the attic (where the boys play). I race up and yell ask the boys to be quiet (hardest part of having a baby who still takes naps!). They both ask for a yogurt snack. I go back downstairs to grab their snack. No yogurt. I race back up to tell them I'll bring them a snack as soon as I'm done with my work. Start writing again. Sam is crying. Run back upstairs as quickly as possible to tell Sam to be quiet and to tell Lewis to share all of his toys immediately. All of this happens several more times before Anni wakes up from her nap

Eating lunch
expectation: eating lunch in silence without anyone needing anything from me
reality: The boys need help putting on their costumes, one of them gets hurt on the trampoline, they both need water, one of them spills his water on the way out, the baby cat escapes outside. 

Going to the gym before the kids wake up
expectation: sneak out at 5:50am while everyone is still sleeping peacefully
reality: Don't end up going to sleep until 11:15 pm the night previous, One of the boys wakes up in the middle of the night from a nightmare, Anni wakes up uncharacteristically early the SECOND I step out of the front door and wants to nurse

Grabbing coffee with a friend:
expectation: I will buy the kids hot chocolate and some delicious treats and they will play sweetly with each other while my friend and I catch up
reality: one or all of the kids undergo a strange, inexplicable emotional change on the way to the coffee shop which results in much crying and complaining from the moment we arrive to the moment we leave. 

I try to do something for myself every day so that I don't go crazy. I'm learning that right now "alone time" doesn't look the same as it used to and that's ok. Most days I just have to stop and laugh in the midst of all of the chaos. Life is so beautiful 

Friday, October 21, 2016

Pumpkin patch adventures

At this time of year pretty much the only activity I can think of to do with the kids is the pumpkin patch! We've already been 4 or 5 times...and have so.many.pumpkins lol. Our favorite is Bartels because its free to get in, they have a great playground for the kids, and its only 15 minutes from our house. 

Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Loving lately - October

Hi friends! Fall is in the air and everywhere I look. I'm trying my best to embrace the season rather than think about the warm summer mornings I'm missing so much. Here are some things I'm loving this month!

Hand lettering and more specifically the Pentel Fude Touch Sign Pen. I love this pen for hand lettering practice. It has a brush tip but it isn't overly flexible which allows me to control the shape and form of my letters pretty easily.

 GOLD SPRAY PAINT!!! I originally bought this to finish up some details on the boys' halloween costumes then went a little crazy... Now I'm having trouble imagining something that wouldn't look good painted gold.

 All the fall scents. Cinnamon bark, nutmeg, and clove are some of my favorites to diffuse this time of year. The house smells fantastic and I don't even miss the sickly sweet scent of fall candles that I used to love so much

 This little hydro flask is perfect for a morning cup of coffee, or tea, or anything else you want to keep warm for several hours. Bonus: it doesn't leak which is great news for this mom (one of the kids' drinks spills in my purse at least once a day).

What are you loving right now? I LOVE trying new things